Day 11: Dear E. Lynn Harris

Dear E. Lynn Harris

My distant and late mentor. Oh how I wish you were still here; here to continue your legacy of awesomeness! I will never forget the first book I read of yours, "Anyway the Wind Blows." I was only in the 11th grade and I'm not quite sure how I first became interested in you as an author but I can honestly say that whatever it was, it was meant to be. I had no clue about the "downlow" world but you opened my eyes wide and clear. As a woman, I truly thank you. Who would have known that you writing fiction literature would actually educate people on real life situations? I experienced your struggle and your pain with every one of your books. At first, I thought you were just a great writer. It wasn’t until I read your memoir "What Becomes of the Brokenhearted" that I considered you to be the best. How could a memoir be so engaging and such a page turner!?

I remember the day that you past away. I was so hurt. I planned on meeting you and asking you to write a quote for my book cover. No one and I mean NO ONE could replace the joy I would have experienced to see your quote on my work. I decided to omit the quote all together because you are truly irreplaceable.

E. Lynn Harris, I want you to know that you will always be an inspiration to me. You are a pioneer to the African-American literature world and you will be forever missed.

Day 10: Wishing You Had More time

**Note** I don’t have too many people in my life so the people that I’m close to, I talk to and we always stay current with each other. This post applies to someone who is busy at the moment so I do wish I could talk to this person more at the moment.

Dear You!

Proud of you yes, sad that you’re super busy :( Yes! Your busyness actually had me questioning our friendship. The reason being is, from experience, I make time for the important people in my life and everyone else gets the left over time. No matter what kind of deadlines or assignments I may have, I still manage to talk with my closest friends and fam on a day to day basis. When you started to get busy, our communication started to decrease. We went from talking everyday to talking once or twice a week. I was like hmmm…If he can’t make time for me then he’s probably not the friend I thought he was. You’ve missed out on some key milestones in my life these past few months. I may be a big baby and I may also be blowing this out of proportion but what can I say…Its how I feel and I’m simply expressing myself. Our friendship is like a relationship so you knew what you were getting into when you committed to this friendship LOL. But seriously, I miss our random conversations and our fun times hanging out together. The only thing that keeps me believing in this friendship is the way you make me feel when we do talk. You make me feel super special and at the end of our conversations I can tell how much you care and love me.

Looking forward to the days where you can better manage your time :(

Day 9: I so Want to Meet Tyler Perry

Dear Tyler Perry,

Let’s skip the small talk…I would love to meet and work with you! For the longest, the only thing I knew about you was that at some point you were homeless. I always remind myself that if you can go from homeless to what you are now then surely I can go from a kinda-known writer to a nationally known and respected one. Whenever things get tough, I remind myself of how tough it must have been for you. This past month, I got to know you a little more with your Oprah interview. A Christian recognizes another Christian and when you spoke about forgiveness…I knew that you were someone that I really needed to meet. Forgiveness is hard, I know this from experience but when you have God on your side, all things are possible. To know that you forgave the people that hurt you the most and to know your struggle puts you high on my list of mentors. When I see successful people, I honestly don’t wish I could be like them, I don’t want your success; I want my own, but I do want to know your experiences, because I know they will help me in creating my own experiences and legacy. Because I’m involved in the media, I see a lot of negative criticism about you. In my last review that I wrote about “For Colored Girls” I made mention to this. The critics seem awfully hard on you. I hope you don’t listen to ANY of them. I believe in “He who is without sin, cast the first stone.” I’m sure we would be amazed if a camera followed some of these so called “critics”

Tyler Perry I think your work and your path is amazing and when I meet and work with you for the first time, I’m going to make sure you get a chance to read this letter.

Day 8: My Favorite Internt Friend(s)

Hmmm… This one is quite difficult since I don’t have any internet “friends” that aren’t my “regular” friends and I don t have any “regular” friends that I like to talk to on the internet. I do however have favorite websites that I visit and technically they can be considered internet friends.

Sharebuilder.com

I’m trying to grow my moolah and since I’m new to this…this website is great!

MediaBistro.com

I’m a writer…Duh! I love this website because it’s so resourceful.

Essence.com

I’ll be a life time supporter of Essence as long as they remain true to the woman of color. I love reading and writing (hint-hint Essence should hire me) about all things related to women!

Facebook.com

Keeping in touch with my friends, family, and fans is very simple because of FB. I’ve been a Facebook user since 2005…

TheYBF.com

SandraRose.com

I’m not much of a gossip lover but both of these websites have a good mixture of gossip and positive information so I visit them both on a daily basis.

Day 7: Dear Ex

Dear Ex:

Where do I begin? First I want to thank you. Not for being the best man to me "obviously" but because every single thing that I went through with you gave me the wisdom that I have today. You have no idea how much I grew from dating you. I know what true love is now because you showed me what love wasn’t. You were the first and up until this year "only" person I ever loved. I was convinced that you were the last person that I was going to date because I found him...I found my pot of gold (at least that’s what I thought) You opened my eyes to the theme that I used for my novel "A Man Will Only Do What You Allow Him To" I heard that phrase plenty of times but of course, I'm hard headed. For some reason my relationship with you really helped me to see the truth in that phrase. I look at you now and I see you still living the exact same lifestyle. It drives me crazy! and let me tell you why. Despite our lack of happily ever after bliss, I know that you have the possibility to be an awesome partner/husband. You're getting too old to be caring on like you do. I'm sure you've come across some awesome women so I'm confused as to why you haven’t settled down with one of them yet. I would much rather find out that you're married and decided to give up the lavish living than finding out that you’re doing the exact same things. I have sympathy for you because now I think there must be something wrong. I think you are cautious of commitments because you don’t deal with loss too well. Its fine to be hurt from your childhood and your past but you can’t take that into your future. Despite the crazy lifestyle you live, you're a pretty sweet, goofy, and cool person. Why don’t you let that light shine? I want you to know that I have absolutely no hard feelings towards you and wish you the best in life.

The next woman that you meet, if she’s everything that you ever imagined...Wife her crazy boy :)

Day 6: A Stranger

So one day my Model (My BFF Meron) and I were at a car dealership getting her a car. The salesman kept talking to us and mentioning God's name. I don’t remember exactly what he was saying but he had to have mentioned God's name like 20 times. We ended up at his desk and our conversation went from getting her a car to giving us a positive message. He looked at both of us and told us we were destined to be friends. He told me that I was sick and that I could relax because everything was going to be okay. In my head I was like (Whatever I don’t believe it. This man is just saying stuff) He then looked back at me and was like, didn’t I tell you that you're fine, why don’t you believe me? Needless to say I was sick and very nervous. I started crying. At that moment I said okay I believe you. He told her that she was in a bad relationship and that she needed to get out of it and she actually was. He told us a lot more things that night, all which have came true. He told me that I was going to be sooo successful and influential. All of this was taking place in the middle of the show room at a desk. I couldn’t tell you what the rest of the customers were doing or if other people were there; our conversation was that intense. He told my Model and I that we needed each other and that we would always be there to help each other. He ended the conversation with telling us to go to our car and pray together which we did for the very first time. She didn’t even get a car that night but we received an awesome message from a pure stranger. I called the dealership a few weeks later and asked for him and no one knew of who he was...

I have a feeling that who we thought was a stranger was someone we knew all along. :)

Day 5: My Dreams

Dear Dreams!

Everyday I make a point to achieve you. Everyday I make an effort to add more to you. I never neglect you and I've never given up on you. But lately...lately you've been acting strange. It feels like our relationship is somehow falling apart. Things have become much harder and confusing. When I think about you I'm so happy. The problem is when I make plans for us. Are you scared of commitments or something? Why do you act all funny when I make plans for our future? You start changing and finding ways to stress me out.

Dreams, will you please get your act together? National Best Selling Author, Owner of a Non-Profit that helps women reach wholeness and peace, TV show host, and writer extraordinaire...Get with the program!