Lovers & Friends

So I'm listening to the lyrics of Usher's "Lovers and Friends" and I've seen clips of Steve Harvey saying it's impossible for men and women to be "just friends" and it made me ponder......

I think I'm in agreement with Steve Harvey on this one. Maybe if you're friends that don't hang out all that much or if you do hang out then there's always other friends around than okay, I can see it staying in the safe zone but if it's just you and that friend rolling solo to the movies, shopping, chit chatting on the phone, and spending the night together then somethings bound to pop off.

Below is a partial piece of Lil John's part in "Lovers and Friends":

"I's been knowing you fo' a long time,
But (beep) never crossed my mind,
But tonight I seen sumthin' in ya,
That made me wanna get wit 'cha,
You ain't been nuttin' but a friend to me,
And a (beep) never ever dreamed to be,
Up in here, kissin', huggin', squeezin', touchin'

I honestly believe that is how it goes. You either start off with a hidden agenda from jump or you come into it completely innocent and get blind sided by a passionate kiss during one of your movie nights.

This is not a bad thing at all. The mere fact that you both were good friends could be a hella of start to a lasting relationship. I mean think about it; you know each other's faults, you know the things either of you would never tell to a potential partner, and etc. etc. Bottom line is, you know all about each other, so why not?

Some might say, well wouldn't that ruin the friendship, I mean what would happen if the relationship doesn't last?

I say this, either or, the friendship is ruined if you're spending a lot of time together because feelings are going to develop naturally. You either A don't act on your feelings of passion and drive yourself nuts fantasizing about this person and trying to keep from pouncing on him/her when you are together which leads to built in stress and conflict or B you get together and live happily ever after or get together and realize its not for you. If you're mature and strong enough you can go back to being friends. But either way you look at it Option B is much smarter and fun than option A.

Sorry everyone but I'm sold on the fact that men and women can't be "just friends"

Love,

Demetrius