The highest hand in poker is a ROYAL FLUSH. Its very clear and obvious: an ace, king, queen, jack, and a ten.
As easy as it is to spot a "royal flush" in poker, it's unfortunately not that easy when it comes to relationships. However, there are plenty of signs that are noticeable and will cause you to be quite clear on the fact that you've been dealt a bad hand. While I don't normally like to call out names, considering the fact that you never really know the details of other people's relationships. This time I'll make an exception, and its strictly for the sake of painting a clearer picture. The couple that is up for example is: Eric and Jennifer Williams of VH1's Basketball Wives. Now if you aren't in tune with this TV series, then you need to be updated asap!
Jennifer Williams is married to ex-NBA player Eric Williams. In my opinion, the only thing that binds them to marriage is the paper certificate. His actions, love, respect, and loyalty is non-existent in their relationship. So why would she or any woman in this situation stay? That's an interesting question, and since we don't have the FULL details, we can only go by assumptions. My first reaction was that Mrs. Jennifer is humming to the tune of Beyonce's "Ring the alarm." As a matter of fact, this type of situation is brought to light in my book. The girlfriend/fiance/wife not wanting to leave a well established man because of the fear of seeing another woman on his arm. This type of woman feels that shes been there through thick and thin and feels entitled to being the only receiver of his benefits. Well here's a little advice to all the ladies that think in this same manner (someone is already being a receiver of his benefits and in many instances its more than one or two others...) Love can also be a factor, you have tons of women staying in bad relationships with ordinary men because of so called "love." When I say ordinary, I mean by society's standards. A man who's a garbage man, a banker, even unemployed, can take a woman on an emotional roller coaster like this. The conclusion I offer about the female characters in my book and about non-fiction characters such as Jennifer, is the ever present lack of confidence and the strong aura of insecurity. WOW! Can a beautiful woman such as Jennifer, lack confidence and be insecure? Absolutely! Jennifer has nothing to loose by leaving Eric. She has no children and they don't own any businesses together. There's no spider webs here, no tangled ropes with burned ends. She has so much room to get out, the space is as big as that damn house they were looking to get together. And by the way did they really think that buying a house can mend a broken relationship?
Which brings me to my next point and this hits home. We women, tend to attach some type of materialistic object to receiving more love from a man. We somehow desire to trap him. No I'm not taking about "trap" him in a malicious way, I'm speaking of "trapping" him in a physical commitment way. Buying a house together and the biggest way "having a baby together." All to often, you hear women say, "he'll change if we have children." Those are the exact words of one of the characters in my book. She hopelessly thought her man would love her more and be faithful if they had a child together. The foundation of your love is going to determine the direction of your love. Your love foundation can not be your children, a house, a business, or any other physically binding commitments. Your love foundation is all the characteristics that are mentioned in the bible. Whether you believe in the bible or not, its a proven fact, Love is: patient, kind, humble, keeps no record of wrongs, slow to anger, it does not envy, always protects, always hopes, and never fails. If you cant say that about your love than you might want to consider folding cause you might have been dealt a bad hand of cards.
While Jennifer is probably considered the worst one of them all, the fakest, and the most hated; I'm starting to have a little sympathy for the woman. I can sense a wounded animal when I see one and we all should know the behavior of a wounded animal. Hands down Jennifer has been dealt a bad hand and I didn't go into detail about Eric because I wanted to save that for another entry, but trust me, I have a few darts to through his way. My point was to speak on Jennifer, a representation of many women, maybe not as a baller's wife but as a woman staying for all the wrong reasons; a women wounded, who wounds others; a woman not noticing her own worth so she accepts anything; a beautiful woman acting ugly; a woman who allows a man to treat her like crap; a woman who is is scared of being an individual; a woman who is scared of change. So while you were originally pointing the finger at Jennifer, you might have to look in the mirror, as you could possibly see the same reflection she sees.
No, every situation isn't going to be perfect, but just as players sit around the poker table, evaluating the hand they've been dealt, you too, need to evaluate if you should hold em' or fold em'
Love,
Demetrius
