What Becomes of the Impatient Person?

Being impatient is one of the devil's low blows. He hits you with it and before you know it you've lived half of your life with this horrible thing ruining your progress and your success. Being impatient can hit you on every level: relationship, career, financial, and etc.

So what exactly becomes of the impatient person?

Well they can most definitely miss out on all the blessings and good things that are in store for them.

"The Man" One of the major impatient factors women deal with. Not only is it your impatience that can get in the way on this one but I'm sure your parent's and your friend's impatience doesn't help much either. You've told yourself that you're going to focus on God and when the right person comes along and you have a GREAT feeling about him then you'll give it a try. Okay now that six months have gone by and you haven't met one guy who even passes your "Don't use drugs not even socially test" or your "I'm celibate until marriage test" you decide to go back to dating whomever cause you cant wait anymore. And you say to hell with your test because even with simple test as the ones I named you could miss out on your husband. Or you just go on random blind dates to please your mother or prove to your father that your not gay since you're over thirty and still single. (Cracking up laughing at my self) My point here is, if God told you to wait then who cares how long it is and who cares what other people have to say. I know I know easier said than done. Reevaluate what you're waiting for anyway. Sometimes its not even just about the art of learning how to be patient, it might be about what you're going to learn and how you're going to grow in the time frame of this patience.

"Finances" Another big one. Partly the reason behind half of America loosing their houses. Getting into homes they couldn't afford because they were too impatient to wait for when the time was right to buy a house or maybe it was about buying a house at a certain price. You wanted the $300,000 one instead of the $200,000 one so they worked some figures and pulled some strings and got you into that balloon mortgage that you couldn't afford and couldn't refinance. Well if you would have gotten the house you could afford or waited it out a little while longer until you were able to save up enough emergency money then perhaps you would have been able to pay the mortgage for those tough six months you went through.
Lets not even get into shopping and running up that credit card from Nordstrom, Macy's, and Saks... Just cant wait till you can pay for it after payday hughh???? :--)

"The Career" is a good one too. You hate your job so you jump right into another one or you flat out quit cause you know you'll find another one. Your new job decides to downsize and since you're the last one hired...you know the rest. Well I'm completely guilty of this one, yes I'm the quitter LOL. Perhaps you should have made plans and set goals, worked hard towards them and when you reached them then quit or took a leave for two or three weeks (if feasible) to test it out before you up and quit.

I could go on and on about the decisions we make from being impatient; especially since I recently learned that was my main problem, but we all know better. We feel it in our gut when were making a wrong choice. We even back it up with that whole "Oh well" I'm taking a chance.

So where do you go from here since you've made all those mistakes up above and then some more?

Its really a simple thing, meditate with God and make plans for the things you want in life. Write down the responsible and sensible steps it would take to get there, and do what you can and pray to God for what you cant. Most importantly remember we can make plans but God has the final say so...

Love,

Demetrius

Things that make you go hmmmmm...

Do you ever wonder what God was thinking when he created sex?
The very thing that is intended for reproduction is the very thing that is quite satisfying.
Was the satisfying part created to be an incentive?
Would man kind still reproduce with out "the feeling" of satisfaction?
Everything that God does is purposeful. Wisdom was there when God created the heavens and the earth (Proverbs 3:19-20)

So this thing called sex which is meant for reproduction but feels so satisfying that man kind says forget reproduction but lets do this for complacent reasons was created by God with wisdom?

I think one of my questions would be why does it have to feel so good? Many attempt to take the celibacy pathway and many fail--All because it feels so good.

If sex didn't feel good, wouldn't we have less problems today?

Well no doubt, God is the great I Am, so this sex thing which was created with wisdom feels good because its suppose to. God doesn't make mistakes. So us humans who cant stop having sex because it "feels so good" have got to get it together. Its just another way that the devil comes in and turns one of God's greatest invented things into a disaster. The devil kills us with our own weapons.

This thing called sex which is good, feels good, and good results come from it was created to be utilized by a married couple. All things good come from sex when you've met the "license" requirements. (Well are suppose to at least)
But of course we like to drive unlicensed, license suspended, too young to even see over the steering wheel and we're talking about driving in the fast lane. That's when the devil has his fun. STD's; abortions; men not claiming their kids; women abandoning their kids; kids abandoning their kids; and etc.


So to answer the question as to what God was thinking when He made sex feel good...
I believe He was thinking they will have free will. If they choose My will then it will be good if they don't then, of course you know the rest...

Does it really feel that good???????

Love,

Demetrius

Lovers & Friends

So I'm listening to the lyrics of Usher's "Lovers and Friends" and I've seen clips of Steve Harvey saying it's impossible for men and women to be "just friends" and it made me ponder......

I think I'm in agreement with Steve Harvey on this one. Maybe if you're friends that don't hang out all that much or if you do hang out then there's always other friends around than okay, I can see it staying in the safe zone but if it's just you and that friend rolling solo to the movies, shopping, chit chatting on the phone, and spending the night together then somethings bound to pop off.

Below is a partial piece of Lil John's part in "Lovers and Friends":

"I's been knowing you fo' a long time,
But (beep) never crossed my mind,
But tonight I seen sumthin' in ya,
That made me wanna get wit 'cha,
You ain't been nuttin' but a friend to me,
And a (beep) never ever dreamed to be,
Up in here, kissin', huggin', squeezin', touchin'

I honestly believe that is how it goes. You either start off with a hidden agenda from jump or you come into it completely innocent and get blind sided by a passionate kiss during one of your movie nights.

This is not a bad thing at all. The mere fact that you both were good friends could be a hella of start to a lasting relationship. I mean think about it; you know each other's faults, you know the things either of you would never tell to a potential partner, and etc. etc. Bottom line is, you know all about each other, so why not?

Some might say, well wouldn't that ruin the friendship, I mean what would happen if the relationship doesn't last?

I say this, either or, the friendship is ruined if you're spending a lot of time together because feelings are going to develop naturally. You either A don't act on your feelings of passion and drive yourself nuts fantasizing about this person and trying to keep from pouncing on him/her when you are together which leads to built in stress and conflict or B you get together and live happily ever after or get together and realize its not for you. If you're mature and strong enough you can go back to being friends. But either way you look at it Option B is much smarter and fun than option A.

Sorry everyone but I'm sold on the fact that men and women can't be "just friends"

Love,

Demetrius

The Perfect Woman

"Too hot will get you no where but alone and perhaps used"

"Too cold will get you no where but alone"



Two totally different types of women, with two different paths yet the same ending ALONE



So what is a perfect woman exactly? Perhaps its best to play the middle....

Love,

Demetrius