Day 3: My Mommy and Daddy

Let me start off by saying that I wouldn’t trade my parents for the world... Well, on some days I would (hehe)

Dear Mommy,At first I thought our relationship was weird, being that we didn’t start getting alone until I was in my 20's but then I meet more and more mothers and daughters who shared the same late blooming relationship. It’s great to know were normal! I do however, hate that we had to start that way and I hate that it's such a common thing. Being that I'm not a person that lives in the past, I'm able to learn from it and enjoy what we have now, which is a fun, loving and very close relationship. I laugh all day at you-literally. You have a ton of personality, even while you're in the hospital bed. Who in the world gets mad at the hospital because they won’t bring them a chicken wrap, 2 days after they just had surgery on their neck...only you! Most people don’t know, but I moved home to help take care of you after your 2nd surgery because you mean that much to me. I'm looking forward to more laughs and creating tons of memories that I can forever share with my children.

Love Ya,Miss Piggy

Daddy!

My very close relationship with you is no secret to you or the world :) Everyone knows that I'm a daddy's girl. I would however like to explain why I'm such a daddy's girl. You are the ultimate role model; the definition of a man. You were in the military while I was growing up yet you never missed any of my birthdays. I knew without a doubt that on May 4th, I would see my daddy sitting in my living room when I got home from school. You disciplined me over the phone and mailed me tons of beautiful gifts from all of your destinations. My morals and values come from you. You always told me to be honest, "a man that lies will steal and cheat too." I remember when you used to teach yourself how to do my college homework just so you could help me or when I used to have you proofread my essays and you would re-write them (I always turned in your re-write versions). You aren’t a "do as I say, not as I do" daddy, you show me how to live right by being an example. I watch you constantly give of your time and your money and you ever backed it up by saying, "I never get tired of helping other people." Some may say I'm picky with choosing a man but they don’t know I have an awesome father who has shown me the characteristics of a man: a provider (not just financially but emotionally and spiritually), a leader, God-fearing, wise yet seeks more wisdom, loyal to his commitments, responsible, a faithful steward of his money, and to top it all off you are skilled in fixing cars and things around the house, cleaning, and cooking. You are the exact definition of a father and they should have your picture in the dictionary!

Thank you for being such a wonderful daddy to me!

Love You,Meatball, Nugget, Meaty Mouse <--a few of the nicknames my daddy calls me :)

Day 2 My Crush(es)

Crushes are so fun. They bring out the little girl in you. Remember when you used to have crushes on boys in grade school? Perhaps you wrote their name on your binders and drew hearts around it or if you were like me, you wrote their name on your leg or arm with a pen (hehe)

Crush #1 My PastSoo, all of my closest friends from Vegas know that I had the biggest crush on a certain some one as a teenager. His name is dun dun dun dun da dun...TJ. Anywho, I loved me some TJ. He was my sister's best male friend and I practically HARRASSED him :) I would answer the phone every time he called and I would constantly ask him when he was going to take me out. Despite the drastic age difference (I was 14 and he was 23), I was honestly convinced that he would one day give in...

Crush #2 The Real Deal Anywho, my current crush is "The Real Deal." He's a handsome, ambitious, respectable, God-loving and fearing, articulate, and did I mention sexy man. What I like most is that his outside matches his inside; he's not a waste of body! He spends a lot of time reading and of course I think that's super sexy :) So...You're probably wondering if I've approached my crush... Well if you know me then you know I have. You only get one life :) And yes, I'm glad I did...I challenge anyone that reads this (yes I’m talking to you) to approach your crush!

Crush #3 This is More Than a Crush...I'm soooo in love with LL Cool J *OMG* If he wasn’t married, I would actually have hope LOL. I've never I mean never met a man so beautiful in person. I was speechless. I froze right in my footsteps and couldn’t even say hi. He is definitely crowned the most perfect and sexiest man that ever existed here on earth... Hey Lover!

30 Journals in 30 Days

Calling All JAZZY CHICKS! Why don’t you join me as I partake in this fun journalism challenge? For the next 30 days, my friends and I will be blogging about 30 different topics. I'm extremely excited to share all of our fun and INTERESTING stories and pictures as we get to know each other a little better. I am encouraging all of you to join forces with your fellow JAZZY CHICKS and do this challenge too...Happy Blogging!

Day 1 — Your Best FriendDay

2 — Your CrushDay

3 — Your parentsDay

4 — Your sibling (or closest relative)Day

5 — Your dreams

Day 6 — A stranger

Day 7 — Your Ex-boyfriend/girlfriend/love/crush

Day 8 — Your favorite internet friend

Day 9 — Someone you wish you could meet

Day 10 — Someone you don’t talk to as much as you’d like to

Day 11 — A Deceased person you wish you could talk to

Day 12 — The person you hate most/caused you a lot of pain

Day 13 — Someone you wish could forgive you

Day 14 — Someone you’ve drifted away from

Day 15 — The person you miss the most

Day 16 — Someone that’s not in your state/country

Day 17 — Someone from your childhood

Day 18 — The person that you wish you could be

Day 19 — Someone that pesters your mind—good or bad

Day 20 — The one that broke your heart the hardest

Day 21 — Someone you judged by their first impression

Day 22 — Someone you want to give a second chance to

Day 23 — The last person you kissed

Day 24 — The person that gave you your favorite memory

Day 25 — The person you know that is going through the worst of times

Day 26 — The last person you made a pinky promise to

Day 27 — The friendliest person you knew for only one day

Day 28 — Someone that changed your life

Day 29 — The person that you want tell everything to, but too afraid to

Day 30 — Your reflection in the mirror

When to hold em' and when to fold em'

The highest hand in poker is a ROYAL FLUSH. Its very clear and obvious: an ace, king, queen, jack, and a ten.


As easy as it is to spot a "royal flush" in poker, it's unfortunately not that easy when it comes to relationships. However, there are plenty of signs that are noticeable and will cause you to be quite clear on the fact that you've been dealt a bad hand. While I don't normally like to call out names, considering the fact that you never really know the details of other people's relationships. This time I'll make an exception, and its strictly for the sake of painting a clearer picture. The couple that is up for example is: Eric and Jennifer Williams of VH1's Basketball Wives. Now if you aren't in tune with this TV series, then you need to be updated asap!



Jennifer Williams is married to ex-NBA player Eric Williams. In my opinion, the only thing that binds them to marriage is the paper certificate. His actions, love, respect, and loyalty is non-existent in their relationship. So why would she or any woman in this situation stay? That's an interesting question, and since we don't have the FULL details, we can only go by assumptions. My first reaction was that Mrs. Jennifer is humming to the tune of Beyonce's "Ring the alarm." As a matter of fact, this type of situation is brought to light in my book. The girlfriend/fiance/wife not wanting to leave a well established man because of the fear of seeing another woman on his arm. This type of woman feels that shes been there through thick and thin and feels entitled to being the only receiver of his benefits. Well here's a little advice to all the ladies that think in this same manner (someone is already being a receiver of his benefits and in many instances its more than one or two others...) Love can also be a factor, you have tons of women staying in bad relationships with ordinary men because of so called "love." When I say ordinary, I mean by society's standards. A man who's a garbage man, a banker, even unemployed, can take a woman on an emotional roller coaster like this. The conclusion I offer about the female characters in my book and about non-fiction characters such as Jennifer, is the ever present lack of confidence and the strong aura of insecurity. WOW! Can a beautiful woman such as Jennifer, lack confidence and be insecure? Absolutely! Jennifer has nothing to loose by leaving Eric. She has no children and they don't own any businesses together. There's no spider webs here, no tangled ropes with burned ends. She has so much room to get out, the space is as big as that damn house they were looking to get together. And by the way did they really think that buying a house can mend a broken relationship?

Which brings me to my next point and this hits home. We women, tend to attach some type of materialistic object to receiving more love from a man. We somehow desire to trap him. No I'm not taking about "trap" him in a malicious way, I'm speaking of "trapping" him in a physical commitment way. Buying a house together and the biggest way "having a baby together." All to often, you hear women say, "he'll change if we have children." Those are the exact words of one of the characters in my book. She hopelessly thought her man would love her more and be faithful if they had a child together. The foundation of your love is going to determine the direction of your love. Your love foundation can not be your children, a house, a business, or any other physically binding commitments. Your love foundation is all the characteristics that are mentioned in the bible. Whether you believe in the bible or not, its a proven fact, Love is: patient, kind, humble, keeps no record of wrongs, slow to anger, it does not envy, always protects, always hopes, and never fails. If you cant say that about your love than you might want to consider folding cause you might have been dealt a bad hand of cards.

While Jennifer is probably considered the worst one of them all, the fakest, and the most hated; I'm starting to have a little sympathy for the woman. I can sense a wounded animal when I see one and we all should know the behavior of a wounded animal. Hands down Jennifer has been dealt a bad hand and I didn't go into detail about Eric because I wanted to save that for another entry, but trust me, I have a few darts to through his way. My point was to speak on Jennifer, a representation of many women, maybe not as a baller's wife but as a woman staying for all the wrong reasons; a women wounded, who wounds others; a woman not noticing her own worth so she accepts anything; a beautiful woman acting ugly; a woman who allows a man to treat her like crap; a woman who is is scared of being an individual; a woman who is scared of change. So while you were originally pointing the finger at Jennifer, you might have to look in the mirror, as you could possibly see the same reflection she sees.

No, every situation isn't going to be perfect, but just as players sit around the poker table, evaluating the hand they've been dealt, you too, need to evaluate if you should hold em' or fold em'


Love,

Demetrius

Woman 2 Woman

Why do we not stick together?

Why do we compete against each other?

Why do we not give props when props are due?

Why do we not seek advice from each other, in fear that we'll be exposed in thinking the other is great at what they do?

Admit it or not, these are some of the common problems that can hinder a woman's growth. Sometimes they are conscious and sometimes subconscious but needless to say they are prevalent in the way we relate to each other.

Man Scorned

What's worse???

A man scorned or the sound of some one dragging their nails down a chalk board?

"I'd have to say a man scorned."

Yeah you might think its cute because it shows how he's in touch with his emotions, but umm what about when he continues to act in this scorned manner?



What about when his insecurities start to get the best of you?

He constantly makes mention to what his ex-girlfriends have done in the past.

"Why didn't you introduce me to your friends? You know that reminds me of my ex, when she didn't want to be with me anymore. She would act as if I wasn't even there when I seen her out with her friends. I mean I'm not trying to compare you two but I'm just saying."

"You sure you're just tired? You wanted to head back to the house awful earlier than usual. Is everything okay? My ex started acting that way right around the time I caught her cheating. She was nervous that she was going to get caught trying to balance me and the other dude. I know you're not her but this situation is bring up ill feelings."

"Now I know you don't want to hear about my ex anymore but I really want to get this off of my chest. Lately you've been very busy and I cant help but feel that you might be loosing interest in me. She was acting the same way and I just don't want our relationship to end up like my last one."

Scorned, insecure, crazy or whatever you want to call it, its just flat out annoying. No one wants to keep hearing about your damn ex. We get it okay. You're not over her. Perhaps you should chill out for a little bit and work on your little situation.

Ladies if you run into a man scorned, do yourself a favor and RUN........

Love,

Demetrius

March Your Way Into Beauty

As we settle into the month of March, let us indulge ourselves in the beauty that comes along with bright vibrant colors.

Of course this is not to say that dark colors aren't beautiful too. It's simply the welcoming of all the pretty pastels and colors that resemble blossoming spring and summer flowers.

Below is a list of designers that are fashion worthy and pocket worthy to add to your change of the seasons wardrobe.

Betsey Johnson always makes the list as she keeps us in the
vibrant mood all year long.

http://www.betseyjohnson.com/

"LC" Lauren Conrad's Kohl's Collection is what every fashion diva
wishes for:

http://www.kohls.com/

One of my favorite designers Dinna Soliman. Check out her Spring
2010 Collection. Can you say double take?

http://www.dinnasoliman.com/

Love,

Demetrius